It’s amazing how the p****fication of America continues. I saw an article the other day regarding violence in the schools, and how there was a ‘zero tolerance’ policy for such things. Including the phrase:
Violence never solved anything!
Certainly juveniles need to be taught how to solve their differences without physical conflict first, but, failing that, learn next how to pick and choose their battles, then to win them! These last two elements seem to have been lost to the dustbin of history.
This can and should be extrapolated to relations between nations. Speak softly and carry a big stick works for me, for the ‘street’ and the schoolyard (although most schoolyards prohibit sticks or their moral equivalent).
Certainly children emulate their parents, more than copy their words. If you solve problems at home physically, your child is likely to copy you. I saw a stair-step family in the mall one day, six or seven kids in a row, in diminishing height, accompanying their mother. (side note – father was nowhere to be seen.) One of the middle boys punched his sister in the arm – the mom spun around and cracked the boy full-palm across the face screaming “Don’t you hit your sister!” I wonder where he learned such behavior?
I remember my daughter, after two years of karate, being harassed at her bus stop by a boy who was a head taller than she. This was happening daily. Obviously, the boy was repeating something he heard at home, something inappropriate for this venue or 6th Grade girls, which my daughter was. She implored me, “Can I hit him?, Can I?” I asked if he had touched her, she said no. I advised we would deal with it (by speaking with the school). But, I did tell her if he did touch her, yes, she could respond with force. Fortunately, he was moved to another bus stop, and she didn’t have to do anything. She’d have hurt him, significantly.
I’ve never been the victim of an armed robbery (knock-on-wood) but if I were and the opportunity presented itself, I’d respond with appropriate force. Not inappropriate force, but force. Violence. If necessary. I have been the victim of multiple burglaries (in my former neighborhood). Had I walked in on the miscreants, responding with force concurrent with Arizona law would have been appropriate. And certainly necessary.
I was attacked by a mentally unbalanced person with a knife once. It’s fortunate I was unarmed, or she would be dead. I did injure her to stop the attack.
Violence isn’t always a first choice, but sometimes it is a choice. And sometimes it does solve problems.