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Building Character

I’m all about building character.marvin

Not THIS kind…

Largely because of errors-in-judgement I’ve made in my own life, I find myself drawn to other’s opinions with regard to how one should live.  And I sometimes even try to apply them to my standards, and see how (or if) they fit.

I’ve occasionally referred to The Art of Manliness in this blog.  While much of what is written there is a how-to, some of it is a paradigm-breaking thing.  Thinking outside the box, as it were.

This recent essay challenges the mold of modern parenting.  The one wherein a parent tells the child they can accomplish anything if they put their mind to it.  Now my parents tried their own version of this which was I wasn’t living up to my potential.  Not exactly a positive message.  I tried to encourage my own daughter, but let her figure out her own limits for herself.  She wasn’t necessarily supposed to live my dreams.  She was to live hers.

“You can do anything you put your mind to!”

“The sky’s the limit!”

“You’re the best!”

“Follow your dreams!”

Did you hear these kinds of things growing up? Your parents sure meant well. They really felt like you were the most special creature to arrive on planet earth – a beautiful boy full of limitless possibilities. You could do anything in the world!

But now that that boy is grown up and in his twenties, you might find that such encouragement has become more paralyzing than motivating. If your possibilities really are endless, how will you ever decide which path to take and what to do with your life? (TAOM)

I would encourage you to visit the link above and also read the other essays.  I often learn things there – and I’m old!

Better than thinking I can blow up the Earth because it blocks my view of Venus!


About guffaw1952

I'm a child of the 50's. libertarian, now medically-retired. I've been a certified firearms trainer, a private investigator, and worked for a major credit card company for almost 22 years. I am a proud NRA Life Member. I am a limited-government, free-market capitalist, who believes in the U.S. Constitution and the Rule of Law.


8 thoughts on “Building Character

  1. But if it really does block your view … oh, never mind. We tried very hard to be supportive, and encouraged both girls to find jobs as soon as they were old enough. But we never tried to steer them any particular direction until they expressed some interest. We opened doors for them, but told them they had to step through and make their own way from there.

    It’s hard not to push, but I think we did okay.

    Posted by Rev. Paul | May 9, 2013, 7:22 am
  2. Darn…I thought Guff had a post about Marvin the Martian and it turns out to be a post about adult stuff.
    “Where’s the kaboom? There was supposed to be an Earth shattering kaboom!”

    I never had kids so I get to watch my friends and family try to do their best (or not) with their progeny.
    Sometimes it’s pretty entertaining.

    Posted by KM | May 9, 2013, 2:29 pm
  3. Nice link, thanks! And the day we stop learning, they better throw dirt over us…

    Posted by Old NFO | May 10, 2013, 12:39 am
  4. “She wasn’t necessarily supposed to live my dreams. She was to live hers.” Exactly!

    Posted by ProudHillbilly | May 10, 2013, 5:56 am

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